Ohmygod, the responsibility is too much, I know! If all these mind-body-spirit experts are right and we really do have a huge part (or are in sole charge of) our own healing…..well, that’s as overwhelming as the original problem we’re trying to release, right? And there are so many options for treatments out there that it’s dizzying to even start trying to find the right one. You’re feeling like everything has to be perfect in order to have a happy healthy life, aren’t you? Do you know how I know this? Because learning that’s total bullsh*t is all part of the process – mine included.
So many things in my life have not gone perfectly. I did not abide by medical regimens perfectly (in fact, very far from it). I did not do my energy therapy techniques with perfect consistency. And, I did not approach my healing like doctors warned me I had to in order to heal. In fact, I broke so many “rules” until I learned perfection is super overrated. I succeeded anyway.
Here is some food for thought on how you can do it your way, without guilt, and not only survive…but thrive.
1. Be responsible, but not too serious.
Learning to be easier on yourself, not harder, is part of what it takes to heal from chronic illness (and chronic misery too). I’m stickin’ to my guns on the premise that we’re all responsible for our healing, BUT we’re all also human. We only know what we know at this moment. We all are also hard-wired to screw up. Luckily though, life doesn’t take perfection to work out. It takes belief. I did so many things “wrong” during my healing process and it didn’t make one ounce of difference to the overall big picture.
Let yourself off the hook. Laugh more. Eat the cupcake once in awhile. Know you’re doing the best you can with what you have…and consider (and I know this is new for you), that’s more than enough.
2. Acknowledge the “it’s not working” feeling, but don’t buy it.
“When nothing seems to help, I go look at a stonecutter hammering away at his rock perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred and first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not that blow that did it, but all that had gone before.” – Jacob Riis
Smartest. Dude. Ever.
I struggled with this one over and over again during my years of experiencing chronic illness. I always felt like nothing was working. And maybe some things weren’t. The thing is though, that we just don’t know. I learned that it takes time to reset old patterns, energetically and otherwise. Each thing you do, whether it appears to work or doesn’t, is a stone on your path. See it as just that. Stop weighing how much it’s worth and just trust in some way, it is necessary, simply because it is happening.
Years after my stem cell transplant, some of my symptoms started to return again. That’s when I turned to energy therapy. But, it wasn’t an overnight fix. It took some work and patience (not a virtue of mine) to really re-organize and re-pattern my energy body into a healthy place. At times, it felt like it would be doing nothing. Then I’d see progress. Then, I’d feel back at square one again. I learned there are so many patterns to healing and they weren’t always obvious. But it turned out that inside of me, where I couldn’t see, I was making huge shifts. And suddenly, they all added up. It really does take chipping away at that rock for it to crack. Keep taking baby steps and you’ll get there, even and probably especially if you feel like you won’t.
3. Know the Universe has your back.
You think you’re all in charge? Well, you ARE all in charge of doing what you can to help this process of healing unfold. However, you’ve got a super power force that has a hand in this too. It’s the Universe (or God, or whatever you choose to call it). Timing is divine, but not always yours. Countless times over the last years I’ve focused on manifesting something that just doesn’t come to me how I want, in my time. I’m a big believer in the Law of Attraction but sometimes I think authors and spiritual leaders leave a little something out – that how things work out and when is not something we can really just put a request in for, and receive. It’s our jobs to focus and believe in the end result, and trust it’s coming…even via lots of twists and turns that looks like our goal is lost.
Everything that happens in your life is for a reason. It’s getting you somewhere good, it’s getting you away from something not-so-good, or it’s happening because it needs to get your attention. Trust the Universe is talking to you and trying to sidestep you into exactly where you need to be.
My favorite example ever:
When I had Lyme disease, my super awesome doctor gave up on me. Yep, he said “I don’t know what to do with you anymore.” So I took a leap of faith and went to India to receive an experimental stem cell transplant. It saved my life. On my third trip to India to help with a research project, I got terrible food poisoning. I missed my flight. Days later, I met the woman who is now my wife (her mom was being treated in the very same hospital I was at).
My doctor giving up on me not only helped me save my life, but meet my love too. Years later, when my symptoms started to return (because I hadn’t dealt with all the emotional/energetic stuff), I was once again forced to muddle my way through the healing process. This time though, I didn’t rely on doctors. I relied on me. And through it, I found this work and have been happier and healthier than ever – even pre-Lyme. And now I get to help so many other people do the same.
Moral of the story? Stuff happens for a reason. Your life will be easier and more awesome if you start to believe that.
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