Worry is a form of prayer for something you don’t want. Do you need any better reason to stop worrying? – Bhagavan Das
What’s the Deal With Worry, Anyway?
Worry is a very strong feeling of fear. It’s fear of the unknown or the repercussions of what we think will happen.
Worry is a pattern; simply a way of thinking. If your parents were worriers, chances are you learned the belief that the world was not a safe place in some way. Worry can be a coping mechanism – if we worry, we feel like we have things under control and can stay safe.
The good news is that worry can be transformed. Hooray!
Statistics of Worry
Dr. Walter Cavert conducted a study of the things we worry about. Ready to have your mind blown?
We spend 92% of our emotional energies over things that won’t happen or things we can’t change.
- 40% of the things we worry about never happen
- 30% of our worries concern the past
- 12% of our worries are needless worries about our health
- 10% of our worries are insignificant or petty (things that will really not make much of a difference in our lives)
How To Release Worry
Releasing worry is one of the best things you can do for your mind and body. The energy it takes to hold fear and worry could be much better spent in other places, right? But, how do we do that?
1. Break the habit
Worry is a formed habit. We literally get used to trying to predict what will happen, when, and what that will affect in our lives. It’s a way for us to feel safe. Worry is always trying to be one step ahead – a common phenomenon for many. You must consciously find a way to stay present. When you do that, it is impossible to worry because you can’t invest energy in the past or the “what if’s” of the future.
As I shared in a recent Purpose Fairy article, I use an awesome trick for learning to stay present:
Fill in the blank of the following sentence out loud as you perform your daily tasks: “The only thing I have to do right now is _______.” Adopt this practice for everything, including eating lunch and your bathroom breaks, until you train yourself into a new pattern of focusing only on the present moment.
2. Learn to trust life
I always joke that worry is an egotistical habit, in fact. Worry is the idea that if we were in control of everything, all would be well. Learning how to feel safe in the world is a cure for worry. Those who have a deep sense of “everything working out for the highest good” or “everything happening for a reason,” tend to worry much much less. Having trust in the flow of life is the polar opposite of worry.
Think of some times in your life when you went through really hard times. Reflect (now that you can see it clearly) on maybe why some of those things happened. Did they in fact turn out to have a positive? Was life working itself out, even though it felt uncomfortable for awhile?
Practice focusing on your ability to trust life, and trust yourself that you will be ok no matter what happens in your life. I know, easier said than done…that’s why I used the word “practice.”
3. Release the past
Holding on to past emotional energies of fear, regret, resentment and more can cause us to be in a place of worry all the time. That energy is vibrating in our bodies and causing us to feel those emotions at some level on a constant basis. Using various forms of energy therapy to release that negative emotional “charge” from the body, can create a huge positive shift.by