Some days are hard. Today was one for me; what would have been my dad’s 67th birthday. Tears streamed and a few times, I choked on my snot. But, I survived. I don’t know if I survived it well, but I did survive. During the day, I managed to remain present for myself, acknowledging where I was in all the uncertainty, sadness, and more. I also managed to take note of what felt really good during this really hard day, and I’m sharing it here with you.
5 Ways I Survived a Really Hard Day (and you can too)
1. I admitted I was having a really hard day and I allowed it.
This was unexpected for me as I thought the day would pass with little pain (I don’t remember last year being so challenging). As soon as I realized that’s not how it was going to go though, I decided to lean it and embrace all the yucky emotions. I cried a lot. I did focus on the positive when it was possible, but I didn’t force it. I allowed myself to be where I needed to be so it would pass when it was ready.
2. I didn’t suppress my emotions, but I did help them to move.
I chanted using a mantra I learned in India, I tapped on the Emotional Freedom Technique points (EFT), I did the thymus thump (one of my favorite energy balancing techniques where you simply thump with your fist over your thymus gland in the center of your chest while breathing deeply – think Tarzan!), and I listened to music.
3. I took breaks from my grief without vacating it completely.
I did not run from my emotions, but did not hold myself responsible for attending to them all minutes of the day. I accomplished things that would clear my headspace (like my taxes, which have been looming on my “to do” list) so I could be present for my grieving.
4. I looked for signs.
I am semi-obsessed with signs from the Universe. I look for them everywhere and they bring me so much comfort – a favorite number on a license plate, a reference to something close to my heart, or whatever else makes me feel connected and safe. When I can’t get out in the world to find the signs, I go here as there is always something that speaks to me. Find Your Own Signs
5. I made my space comfy and cozy.
I lit my favorite incense, I tidied up the living room, and I took a bath with one of my favorite essential oils. I also grabbed a stack of my favorite books, just to have near me.
My bonus trick…
I also breathed. Over and over. And I realized every moment I was breathing, I was surviving, And with each breath, I had a moment I could be proud of.