Week after week I see clients that have become disconnected from their own intuition and heart. Sadly, so much of what makes us doubt ourselves comes from the medical professionals we reach out to for support. When I was chronically ill for 8 years, I experienced this too. Doctors who told me if I simply followed everything they said, I’d get better. Some told me I’d never get well without addressing “x, y or z” in a specific way. Some told me I was the worst case they’d ever seen and not to expect much improvement. Some even told me I might die. Some got defensive or irritable if I questioned a protocol that didn’t feel right to me, or wanted to get another opinion. One of them even made me sign a contract agreeing that any ‘misstep’ I made by straying from their protocol would give them permission to excuse me from their practice with no warning.
In my work, I hear similar stories to my own all the time. I cannot even begin to express, as a practitioner, how upsetting this is to me. I try to focus my entire practice on encouraging and fostering empowerment. I give tools to help clients gain independence. I practically jump with joy when a client starts to really experience the true ease of following what feels good to them. Virtually all of my clients doubt themselves in some way, fearing they’ll make a wrong turn and lose the support of someone they perceive they need; often a doctor. I strive to always support clients in the discovery of their own guidance, and foster the confidence to use it as a blueprint for their lives. But alas, they have been so programmed to do the opposite, this can be a slowly unfolding (but beautiful) process. I sometimes think of myself as the “intuition coach.”
For all of you who need a reminder: Any doctor or practitioner that gets offended, angry, defensive or threatening when you disagree with what’s best for your body is NOT going to help you heal (no matter how knowledgeable they are). They are going to help create an inner conflict for you — one where you are forced to choose their opinion over your own guidance. In my opinion, inner conflict is one of the very biggest causes for stress on the body’s immune system.
Why Being In Alignment Matters
Our bodies will absolutely follow the path of any belief we are in alignment with — positive or negative. If we subscribe to beliefs that we’ll never get better or that we won’t heal if we don’t follow a certain protocol, we will subconsciously seek to fulfill that. When we choose someone else’s beliefs about our health (like a doctor’s), we are subscribing to their limits on what they think is possible for us. I always joke that if you’re choosing between a doctor’s limiting belief and your own beliefs, you should choose yours. They are more likely to be right, can be changed if they aren’t something that works for you and they are FREE!
“Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense” -Buddha
When I was suffering with Chronic Lyme disease, the protocol wasn’t nearly as sophisticated as it is now and I was a less than compliant patient at times. I was so overwhelmed with all of the different aspects of infections, allergies, complications, toxicity issues and more, that I literally couldn’t address them all. In addition, some things were never mentioned to me as essential issues to address. For instance, now Lyme patients are told that there is simply no way to get well without addressing mold issues. When I was going through treatment, that was never once brought up. Supposedly “every Lyme patient struggles with mold” (and I lived in a house full of mold at one point) so I should not be well today. However, because I was in the dark about this, I never subscribed to that belief and it was never a reality for me. I healed anyway. I also never went on the candida diet, even after being on high dose long-term antibiotics. It just wasn’t a strong “belief” within the Lyme community that it was essential when I was sick. I healed anyway.
This is not to say to ignore your doctor’s protocols at all. I am just wanting people to explore how our beliefs about what we’re told, play into our reality. And how if the beliefs we pick up on are of negativity, we can choose to un-believe them! Trapped negative emotional energy is usually what is fueling the resistance to change our beliefs — most often, fear.
Why Your Inner Voice Is Essential To Getting Well
One of the best things that ever happened to me when I was sick were doctors giving up on me because I didn’t comply or they simply couldn’t help. This freed me and allowed me to find my OWN path….and people who supported me on it. And guess what? I healed. All of the disappointments and failed doctors routes ended up leading me to the right place. And, I learned a big lesson. Doctors are human. Sometimes they guess. Sometimes they are right and sometimes not. However, our inner guidance is literally one of the most accurate skills we all posses. It is counter intuitive to our bodies to go against this mechanism, thus creating stress when we do.
Often the resistance we feel about a protocol or path is our body saying “Don’t go there…it’s not right.” If we ignore this inner voice, we not only give our power away to those we do choose to listen to, but we create a conflict which separates our bodies from our hearts. We give ourselves the message that we don’t know enough, aren’t good enough and have no part in the outcome of our health. And we put more stress on our physical bodies.
How Can We Choose or Change Our Beliefs?
Once I shed the fear of what would happen if I didn’t listen to everyone and everything presented to me, my belief became that improving the immune system was THE key to my wellness. Not chasing each bug or virus. Not finding out the names of each of the dis-eases I had. But, one thing: bringing my immune system up in whatever way felt good to me. Because I believed it so strongly, all of the other beliefs that fell outside of my alignment with that had no bearing on my ability to get well. I ignored mold. I ignored candida. I didn’t do as much of some things as my doctors told me were essential. I did some things doctors told me would harm me. And I am well.
So much of what fueled my beliefs was negative emotional energy from my past. When I started to release this using energy therapy techniques such as Emotional Freedom Technique, everything shifted. My inner voice became clearer and less entangled with doubt and outside voices.
While the road to get to that point wasn’t easy, I confidently walked away having proven that all along I knew best. And I absolutely believe you can too. If you have any other belief, isn’t it time to consider changing that? C’mon, you know you wanna scream “YES!”
This article is dedicated to one of my most influential, beautiful and ultra-talented mentors Shannon Sheridan at Thrival Living.by