I woke up this morning realizing I was hearing a not-so-good story about this process of writing my book. Most times, I’m enjoying it immensely, but every once in awhile when I’m whelmed with other stuff to do and I lose my focus, I feel this big ol’ struggle monster come up. And, it changes everything instantly.
It seems to come out of the blue or from under my bed or something like that, and I’m surprised every time. Like I never see it coming.
I start hearing things like “it’s so hard,” “another 30k words feels impossible” and a variety of other things that make me feel defeated – which is, obviously not a great thing to feel as you work on a gigantic project.
It could be YOUR project we’re talking about too – for work, or your healing, or just getting through the day. In any case, let’s face it, thoughts that spark struggle are definitely not gonna get you to the finish line with any grace.
After paying attention for just a few minutes, I realize that this dreaded struggle monster is ME. It starts with one little thought of “oh my god, I have a book to write,” and then like flies to honey, a million more thoughts find their way into my brain. And I let them in. I keep inviting them.
Me, the monster: “This is a big project.”
“Big projects are hard.”
“It needs to be perfect.”
“People are depending on me.”
And then suddenly, I stop.
I change gears and ask myself the question I always ask when it comes to negative self talk:
“Would I say this to my niece or nephew?”
The answer, as always, is obvious. I quickly put away all my words and thoughts and beliefs about struggle and I start to tell myself a different story. Slowly, but surely.
I change my energy.
“It’s not that hard. I’ve done harder. I can do this a little bit at a time. I’ve already written books. I know this stuff. I’ve already done over 50k words. 50-freaking-thousand words. It’s gonna be okay….”
And before I know it, I talked myself off a ledge and I put the struggle monster out of a job.
I guess I’ll get back to writing now.
Are you ready to tell yourself a better feeling story? Ready, set, go!by