Stuck Trying To Figure Yourself Out? My Two Simple Words Can Help

Stuck Trying To Figure Yourself Out? My Two Simple Words Can Help!

There is an easy (promise!) way to figure out what the real problem driving some of your major issues or life themes are. It’s a simple question that I use with all my clients at some point: “Then what?”

Here’s how it works and why it’s so important.

When someone comes to see me for energy therapy, they are often very aware of what they think might be holding them back. By the end of the session though, they realize they may not have been focusing on the root of the issue at all. That makes it harder to clear, no matter what techniques you are using.

For instance, by using my simple two word formula we could start to dig to the bottom of the issue. Let’s say you know you are a perfectionist and you come to me with that problem because the stress is just too much for you and it’s affecting your health. Our conversation might go something like this.

Me: What would happen if you slipped up and were a little bit less than perfect?

You: Things might not get done the right way.

Me: Then what?

You: Well, then I’d disappoint people.

Me: Then what?

You: Then people couldn’t count on me.

Me: Then what?

You: I would probably get fired from my job.

Me: Then what?

You: I’d be poor.

Me: Then what?

You: I couldn’t support my family.

Me: Then what?

You: I’d have to ask for help.

Me: Then what?

You: That would mean I was weak.

Me: Then what?

You: I’d be useless to my family just like my mother was.

Me: Bingo! Yay. We got to the TRUE fear of not being perfect…and we even get to blame it on your mother :) 

I’d then start to work to energetically clear your fears about being useless and other relevant emotions related to your relationship with your mother. Once that stuff is cleared on an energetic level, the fear of not being perfect has no legs to stand on since that was the foundation of it.

One of my favorite techniques for this type of issue is Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).

So next time you’re feeling stuck and think you know what you’re issue is, double check and ask the magic question. I promise you you’ll find much more to it than you thought there was! And, isn’t that the awesome part about self-exploration?


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A note from Amy

I was once where you are so I totally get ya’. After suffering from a myriad of challenges from general anxiety about life to Lyme disease, endometriosis and every autoimmune disease under the sun, I ended up on a search for something deeper than a “fix”. I went to many alternative practitioners – but I couldn’t relate to a single one of them. As a very grounded-in-reality person, many were just too ‘woo woo’ for me and I couldn’t integrate their guidance into my very real-life, life. Then I found myself on an adventurous path of emotional healing — using energy therapy. Talk about ‘woo woo’ right? But with it, I learned. I unfolded. I let go.
My ultimate healing, the kind that goes deep down to your core and makes you whole again, came from following this road. And yours just might too.